8 THINGS YOU DO DAILY THAT MAKE YOUR CHILD AFRAID OF YOU INSTEAD OF RESPECTING YOU.
Most parents don’t know the difference between fear and respect.
Fear makes a child obey temporarily.
Respect makes them obey even when you’re not there.
But many daily habits secretly push children into fear , not discipline.
Here’s the brutal truth 👇
1. YOU SHOUT MORE THAN YOU SPEAK
Every instruction comes with raised voices and threats.
Your child learns to respond to fear instead of understanding.
Shouting becomes normal communication and emotional safety disappears.
SOLUTION:
- Lower your voice.
- Use calm, firm instructions.
- Reserve raised voice for emergencies only.
- Practice silent pauses before responding when angry.
2. YOU USE PUNISHMENT AS YOUR ONLY LANGUAGE
Every mistake leads to beating, yelling, or humiliation.
This doesn’t correct behavior; it creates fear-driven obedience.
Your child begins hiding their actions instead of correcting them.
SOLUTION:
- Introduce restorative discipline.
- Ask them how to fix what they broke.
- Use consequences that teach responsibility not shame.
3. YOU NEVER APOLOGIZE EVEN WHEN YOU’RE WRONG
When you make mistakes you pretend nothing happened.
Children learn that authority means never admitting fault.
This kills trust and builds silent resentment.
SOLUTION:
- Say “I was wrong”.
- Say “I’m sorry”.
- Show them accountability through example.
- This earns respect faster than any punishment.
4. YOU CRITICIZE THEIR PERSONALITY INSTEAD OF THEIR BEHAVIOR
You say “what is wrong with you” instead of “what you did was wrong”.
You attack their identity not their actions.
Fear grows. Self esteem drops.
SOLUTION:
- Correct actions not identity.
- Focus feedback on behavior.
- Teach them how to improve instead of who to be.
5. YOU COMPARE THEM TO OTHER CHILDREN
You use siblings, cousins, and neighbors as measuring sticks.
Comparison does not motivate.
It humiliates.
It breeds fear of inadequacy.
SOLUTION:
- Praise personal progress.
- Set individual goals.
- Help them outperform their yesterday not another child.
6. YOU SHOW LOVE ONLY WHEN THEY PERFORM WELL
When they fail you withdraw affection.
When they succeed you give attention.
They learn that love must be earned through perfection.
This is emotional fear not discipline.
SOLUTION:
- Separate love from performance.
- Encourage effort without tying it to affection.
- Be emotionally available even during failure.
7. YOU CONTROL EVERY DECISION THEY MAKE
You choose their hobbies, friends, dreams, and voice.
Control kills confidence.
Your child obeys out of fear of disappointing you , not respect.
SOLUTION:
- Allow small choices daily.
- Let them choose clothes, meals, or activities.
- Teach decision making early so they build confidence.
8. YOU NEVER CREATE ROOM FOR OPEN CONVERSATION
Your child cannot ask questions.
Cannot explain themselves.
Cannot express emotions without punishment.
So they stay silent.
Silence is fear not respect.
SOLUTION:
- Create safe conversation time daily.
- Listen without interrupting.
- Ask gentle questions.
- Let them talk freely without fear of immediate discipline.
DEAR READER,
If your child fears you they will hide from you.
If they respect you they will come to you.
- Fix the environment now.
- Fix your tone.
- Fix the patterns that create fear.
Be the parent they trust not the parent they escape.
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